In order to understand how to be happy, we need to look at how we think. There are 3 different ways we react to everything around us.
The first is by wanting
We’re brought up in a culture where we’re told that we need to obtain something, or reach a certain goal in order to be happy. Oh we need to get that new phone, we need to get a bigger TV, we need to get that
promotion, we need to take a picture of this meal and put it into Instagram. But if you think back to any major purchase you made or achievement you reached your picture you posted sure you felt happier for a while but soon after you are back on the hunt every single time you end up finding yourself back at your original level of happiness only this time with less money in your wallet and more wrinkles on your face so it’s safe to say happiness doesn’t lie in the wanting category.
The second way we react is by rejecting
From the moment we wake up our mind automatically starts to look for things, to reject around us. Oh I feel so tired but I have to go to
work, so cold I don’t want to leave my bed, we reject others, oh he’s so awkward, oh why can’t this cashier do his job properly, we reject ourselves so out of shape, why am I such a loser again it’s safe to say there isn’t much happiness here either.
The third way we react is by zoning out
What we’re confronted with a task that’s quote-unquote boring like commuting to work or waiting at the doctor’s office. We tend to zone out everything, become sort of hazy it’s almost as if you put on a black and white filter over your eyes your, brain goes on to sleep mode and your mind is either lost in the past over past regrets or lost in the future filled with anxiety about things that might go wrong doesn’t sound like a fun place to be.
These 3 ways of reacting make up over 99% of the way the average person goes about his day to day life, no wonder they’re unhappy.
So how do I become happy?
Well, there’s actually a fourth way of reacting something that we only experience once in a blue moon. It’s here where happiness really lies.
It’s the way you reacted when you visited the Grand Canyon for the first time, it’s the feeling astronauts describe when they see the Earth from outer space, it’s the way you were when you were younger able to spend hours just looking at bugs and pictures, it’s called mindfulness think of it as the opposite of zoning out your zoning in, being hyper aware of everything in front of you, the way something feels the way it moves it smell, its taste all of its features and nothing else. This means there’s no room for wanting, no room for rejecting and you certainly not zoned out all of your focus is just on the exact thing or event happening right in front of you there is no judgment there’s simply room for you to take it all in and when you react to things and events with mindfulness happiness Follows and it stays for good by simply learning how to focus on what’s in front of you, you make room for happiness in your life and the only way to become more mindful in your reactions on a day-to-day basis, is by practicing meditation.
Now I’m sure there’s a lot of you guys for reading this thinking. Oh god this is some hocus-pocus nonsense. I’ve heard about meditation it makes no sense. I’m not going to sit down and do nothing for 10-20 minutes. But there are literally hundreds of studies backing up this claim which will be the topic of our next video “the benefits of meditation and the scientific evidence to back it up”.
So if you’ve been looking for the answer to the life old question of how to be happy. Look no further stop looking for a shortcut because. I can just about a hundred percent guarantee you the answer lies in mindfulness. And meditation in the upcoming weeks we’re going to dive deeper into these concepts.